Being in your 20’s is a strange era , you are still allowed to act like you have no clue of what you’re doing (because you have no clue of what you’re doing) , you can still pull all nighters and feel relatively well the next day. It’s sociaby acceptable to live with your parents (and have no responsibilities), you can travel with a backpack and try to figure out what you want, you can start a blog and become a yoga teacher without people thinking you are crazy, ha! ( or just a little..)
It’s july 30, I’m sipping on a ginger & peach tea while listening to Lana Del Rey’s new album, and I am turning 24. I feel I am finally starting to think like a grown up and have real goals and plans like installing a mini bar in my living room. Jokes aside, I like getting older because it means I am getting wiser , learning new things, meeting new people, visiting new places, but most of all it means I get to live another day. Celebrating a new year comes with a lot of excitement, pride, self-reflection, and a great amount of soul searching. Here’s what I’ve learned in 24 years.
1. You are your own best friend.
I love being by myself, which is a good thing since I’m going to be stuck with me forever ha! The more I grow older, the more I realize the importance of being patient and gentle with myself. Like any human being , chances are I am going to fuck it up a couple times, letting go of the control and loving myself no matter what is the best way to get out of any situation.
2. Feeling ashamed about your dreams and desires is a waste of time.
I used to be shy when I told people about what I really wanted to do. Sometimes I still get little moments of doubts, but at this point in my life I don’t have any interest in hiding who I really am. The choices I make are my own and as long as I’m not harming anyone, there’s no point in being afraid of judgement because people are going to judge whether you do it , or you don’t!
3. Family matters most.
Honestly, what freaks me out the most about growing up is the fact that If I am getting older, so are my parents. I am such a daddy’s girl , and I just want my dad to be here with me forever. Making time and truly being present with the people you love makes all the difference and trumps everything else.
4. Health is wealth
No more diets or crazy workout routines with no deep connection to my body or purpose to feel better. I only have one body and taking care of myself means doing yoga, eating plant based and staying hydrated. Getting older doesn’t necessarily mean illness if you treat your body right throughout the years. Staying positive, loving yourself and creating a healthy lifestyle is the best way to cultivate your health.
5. It’s okay to do nothing sometimes.
I no longer feel guilty for not doing anything from time to time. I learned to listen to my body and if it means i have to take it easy for a day, so be it! Being okay with who I am and where I am is something I remind myself every single day. Trusting that I am in the right place, at all times.
6. You are constantly evolving and changing and so are the people in your life.
Which means it’s okay to let go of certain people or situations that are no longer serving me on my journey. Being mindful with who’m I spend my time has become very important to me. It might feel like a sad thing to let go of old friends, but sometimes it’s the only way to move forward.
7. Being grateful is the new happy.
Everytime I catch myself being nostalgic I tried to bring myself back to the present moment and reflect on all the positive things in my life. Counting your blessings is the best way to keep a smile your face!
8. Enjoy the little things.
As I am growing older, I realize good times as much as bad times don’t last forever. That’s why it’s super important to enjoy the little things and never stop to be amazed by what a new day has to offer. A list of my fave little things are ; drinking coffee in the morning, seating outside in the sun, talking with my dad, listening to my favourite songs, doing yoga.
9. Set goals and meet them.
Life is too short to not follow through with the goals you set yourself.
10. Do what makes you happy.
There is no place for regret in my life. I truly believe I am at the right place at the right time at all times. Everytime I catch myself being anxious or sad is because I am not fully in the present moment. I remind myself to do what makes me happy everyday, which means doing as much yoga as possbile ,teaching, traveling, eating delicious vegan food and laughing. Life is too short not to be happy!
11. Other people’s opinion don’t matter as much.
At the end of the day what matters is how you feel and the thoughts you think. Because that is what creates your reality- not what other people think of you.
12.Heartbreaks are not the end of the world.
That is right, when you’re in your 20’s and you’ve been in a relationship for a while and then it ends. Sometimes it feels like you just lost everything and you end up lost and broken. Good news is that just like the good times, bad times also don’t last forever. It may seem like the worst thing possible, but know that you’ll be fine.
13. Being different is good.
14. Love yourself first.
I have to say my 20’s are all about self love and healing my body from past wounds and I’ve been enjoying every moment of it. To think that in my teens I thought the concept of self love was ridiculous. Now I hug myself and say ” I love you” from time to time….it’s good for the soul! Self love care also comes in forms of warm baths, comfy socks, a glass of wine and a cozy night in watching netflix, but most importantly it’s an everyday commitment.
15. Work hard on your dreams.
I feel like my 20’s are there for me to build something that will allow me to live from my passion in the future. My parents always taught me to work hard for my dreams from the begining so I can reap the rewards later on. It’s never too late to start working on something that you love!
16. Be patient with yourself.
I’m not always going to get everything right and it’s okay to make mistakes.
17. Always come back to the present moment.
Sometimes I find myself being so caught up in the past or anxious about the future. In those times is where I feel the less productive or happy. Time is always passing and it’s best to just be present in each moment to fully enjoy life and the people around me.
18. Disconnecting from social media is good for the soul.
In 2017, it’s hard to not get hooked with social media. Especially when you run a blog and your job is to be on the internet. From time to time, it’s a good reminder to clear my head and reconnect with nature.
19. I am always learning.
I am a lion, I can’t help it if sometimes I think I know everything. But I bring myself back to earth and remember I’m always learning, which is the best part of growing up. Cause if you ain’t learning, what are you doing with your life anyways ?
20. Less is more.
21. Moments over things.
When I think about my best memories or experiences it never involves something material. But real people or events that happened that made me happy. I still talk about my trip to Asia with my travel buddy and we never get tired of going over and over all the amazing things we did. Those are most important.
22. Books will always be my best friend.
As long as there is a book to read, I will never get bored.
23. Don’t take everything (especially myself)) too serisouly.
Good thing I’ve never been very susceptible. I always take everything like a grain of sand and keep a light heart.
24. Where attention goes, energy flows.
I watched a great TED talk the other day about the power of mindfulness. And It was really interesting because the women in the video explained how what we practice everyday, is what grows stronger. Therefore, it is important to focus our energy on things we want to see flourish and grow in our lives like kindness towards ourselves and others so that everyday, it grows a little stronger.
Happy birthday to me!
Light & love always,